Luvly Lolita...Up Close & Personal

Sunday Afternoon…..a conversation between me and a stranger in a lift

Him: Are you staying here?

Me: Yea i am..( in my heart - Duh! Dumb question)

Him: Never seen you around here before..you new here?

Me: No, im not. It’s just that i don’t go out much.

Him: Ahh..i see. So are you married?

Me: Nope, im not married. “ in my head-Geez, what a place to pick up woman, In a LIFT! ”

Him: So can i call you and maybe we can hang out together?

Me: No, sorry i’m attached.

“Ting” lift bell rang

Me: “Relief”

Him: “Sounding sad ” Oh, ok…sorry,thank you. ” He slumped and walk out the door without even looking at me”

Me: In my head ” That man is desperate to have a girl”

Men out there-instead of sounding/acting desperate, why don’t you start with a small chat, maybe send her to her unit FLOOR ( never follow her to her house as this will scare her!) and then ask her for her number. I believe if you do it right, the “Jackpot number” will be revealed to you easily at the end of the journey. And oh..don’t sound nervous too..cos if you do..we know..trust me.

1. Arrogant guy
He has a huge ego and he’s condescending. He is also rude — not necessarily to her, but to anyone he perceives as beneath him. And that’s just as bad as being rude directly to her.No woman wants to be talked down to, so I shouldn’t have to tell you to shed the ego when you are dealing with her directly. But in order to really impress her, you need to treat everyone around you with a certain amount of respect — because she’ll be watching.

2. The BOORISH guy
The Boorish Guy doesn’t try to hide the fact that he’s Checking out other women while in her presence; he flirts with the waitress and he even goes as far as to brag about his past conquests. Overall, he lacks respect for women. Not only is this type of behavior infuriating, it can also be bad for a woman’s self-esteem. If you act like this, you wont stand teh chance.

3.You talk constantly
You might be a great talker, but if you can’t be silent with her sometimes, then you need to listen up. Your incessant blabber is bound to annoy her sooner or later.Scratch that; it’s probably already annoying her! Women like men who can talk and share, it goes both ways. Make sure you leave the floor open for her to talk too. Ask questions and don’t forget to listen. And remember: sometimes silence is golden.

4. The boring predictable guy
Women don’t like the Predictable Guy because they know exactly how he’ll react to everything. He follows formulas and never wants to do anything differently. For example, he’d never surprise a woman by spontaneously taking her out for the night. Women look for a certain amount of unpredictability in a man — they want a free spirit. This is why some women seem to be drawn to the notorious “bad boy.” It’s not that they are drawn to his badness exactly, but rather to his unpredictability.

5. The self righteous guy
This guy is very judgmental of others. No one wants to be judged, especially on a date. She’ll just find it annoying and rude. You can preach a little once you are actually in a relationship.

6.The dependent@needy guy
Confidence and independence are very sexy traits in a man but insecurity and dependence are not. Most women look for a strong partner they can lean on. So if you are always leaning on her especially in the early stages of a relationship, she might doubt your ability to do this. And since women tend to come into relationships with all sorts of insecurities, she won’t want to deal with yours as well as her own.

7. The never serious guy
If you tend to continuously tell jokes, you may be annoying her. In fact, too many jokes will just make her think you are avoiding a real conversation and simply being a clown. Try to judge her reaction to your jokes. Does she appear to genuinely enjoy them? And even if she does, don’t forget to intersperse your jokes with actual conversation. Be prepared to ask her questions and listen to the answers.

8. The arguer
This type of guy turns every conversation into an argument. He makes her feel like she’s in debate class rather than on a date/relationship. And in doing so, he makes her feel defensive and self-conscious. A date/relationship should be a pleasant experience, but if she’s on the defensive the whole time, she will not be enjoying herself. Remember this: Constant arguing and debating is a stress and you certainly don’t want her to associate you with a stressful experience— right???

9.Too much PDA
Rule No. 1: Never do anything to embarrass her publicly. And serenading, ogling and smooching her in public might do just that. The last thing you want is a bad rep as being possessive, cheesy or just plain silly. Some women do indeed like a certain degree of PDA, but walk that line with care. Start with a peck in public and judge her reaction before proceeding to the public serenade.

10. The misogynist
This guy makes no secret of his bitterness toward women. He can’t help but exude negativity toward his companion and the entire female gender by making rude and insulting comments. This is the only type of behavior on this list that is, in fact, a total deal-breaker. And it’s not surprising. What woman do you know that would like to be in a relationship with a man like this? You need to reconsider your attitude if you are this type of guy. This type of behavior is not only rude and nasty, it is often the last straw in breaking up a relationship.

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Everyone have a wish..i do too and i have a long list of wish that i would want it to come true. But i know all dreams come with good amount of money,tonnes of luck and good amount of hardwork! If only God would make me a millionare by tomorrow.. that would be AWESOME!
What would you do if you have tonnes of money in your hand? As for me…this is what i dream of doing..

1. Pay all my debts.
2. Hopefully my big days will happen in 2009...*AMIN*
3. I want to buy a property, at least one under my own name.
4. Buy a house with big big land
5. Clear all my family debts.
6. Buy a holiday package and bring my whole family jalan jalan around the world.
7.I want my wedding to be a garden wedding, small private occasion only attended by family members and close friends of mine and his.
8.Visit Bali( i dont know why ,but i love Bali)Bangkok( because everything is cheap there, that’s mean shop till i drop, LOL!) and Europe.
9. Open up a business and be successful in it so that it would take good care of the next Fatihah's generation. :)
But of all this dream of mine..i just want to see my Family happy and be proud of me and know that they meant a lot to me.

So,what’s your dream like if you have all the moolah in the world? Mine was pretty simple rite??